divorced

sad... not me lah...
i recently heard 2 cases of divorced... 1 from male, e other female.
both reasons to me, looks e same... no time

case 1 male:
guy always wait for wife to come home. when she came home late, he will msg her "dear, 11pm lor, its getting late" etc...
e wife thinks tat its a nag n give cold water to her fun thus ignore e msg or did not see the msg. (well, ladies put hp in their bags)
sometimes she at work, sometimes with her friends...
this guy among this group of friends like her n inform her despite knowing she is married. of cos e gal prefer the guy cos they are together on n off office hours n her husband is naggy. thus divorce.

if e wife bothers to reply the msg, i dont think it will appear naggy.
maybe the guy dont know how to rephase his words n meaning.

case 2 female:
they got a baby. the wife took care of the baby n tend to ignore the husband as he works OT, sometimes bring home work.
it is understandable tat its tiring to look after babies. maybe she is too tired n forgot that her husband got his needs n might need an ear.
in e end, this husband found an ear somewhere outside and divorced.

of cos there are other reasons for their divorce which they dont tell me abt it.

there is no right or wrong in relationship as both parties got their point of view. but its e learning of taking a step backwards each.
its not possible that i make a step back everyday n let my wife climb over my head. in e end, she will take it for granted n keep climbing as she is used to it. today i give way, tomorrow u give way, isnt tat the way a relationship is to be maintained?

for case 1, if u know ur husband will msg u to 'track' u. juz simply reply him "we still outside, i going back soon, wait for me" etc..
1 msg wont kill u lor

case 2, if e husband needs an ear, juz go n talk to his wife. as wife, although tired, i think she will still lend u e ear. or the wife juz msg him "dont work too late, come back soon" etc (if he is not at home) or prepare coffee for him (if he working at home).

i got a friend. his wife is a teacher who chong... every night virtually only go home to sleep. i not surprise one day they divorce. they are owning a house not a home lor

its a small step but how many ppl know how to do.
to my blog readers, this approach suggestion of mine could be a bit "processive" but to me, its a form of care n concern.

hm... u readers got more relationship experience than me.
if u have better suggestion, let me know...
er... mk, u no need to comment. cos i think u will say "then dont get married"